我們經常把“朋友”掛在嘴邊，但究竟什麼是“朋友”，其可操作性定義又是什麼呢？“朋友”在生活中都扮演哪些角色呢？

我想大概有以下幾點：

1.經常在一起娛樂的人

說得通俗點，就是在一起“玩”的人。從這個意義上講，“志同道合”未必是朋友，那只是“同志”或“同道”和“同事”罷了；

2.經常保持聯絡的人

俗話說：離久情疏。

那些一年或幾年都不聯絡的人很難能稱之為朋友；

3.能分享彼此內心秘密的人

每個人都有自己內心的秘密。

無論是“哥們兒”還是“閨蜜”，必定是能說心裡話的人，有些話不能和婚姻中的另一半說，也不能和父母孩子說，在一起能“無話不談”，想必就是朋友了；

4.在面臨重大選擇時，你願意徵求其意見的人

每個人在面臨重大選擇時都難免會糾結和出現心理衝突，你常常去找之商量的人肯定是你信任的人，且知道對方懂你都為你好，幫助你做決定的人；

5.能在對方面前表現出“真實的你”的人

也就是說，在對方面前不用扮演角色，不用帶“面具”，而不怕對方損你或罵你的人，和對方在一起哪怕一句話都不說，也不會感到尷尬的人；

6.無論對方的地位如何變化，你們彼此間的稱呼不變的人

也就是說，即便對方當了大官，或紅得發紫，但你們之間的稱呼並沒有因對方社會地位的改變而改變。

1. I think friends are that whatever difficulties we meet, we will help each other! A true friend does not suspect or hurt one another when he is in trouble! sometimes,it"s not ok to say some words,you can forget what you say, but the person who just listened can"t forget it！you are just joking! But he doesn"t think it"s a joke! sometimes, people really do the things that he have promised! But you just don"t believe he"s going to do what he promised! I feel very sad，I can"t accept this kind of thing! It"s not someone else can"t do it, but you don"t believe it at all ! If you don"t believe me, we"re not friends, no matter who you are!

2.Everyone needs love, but this love is mutual！I think love is selfless pay，It means that I am willing to pay for you and you are willing to pay for me.At the same time, we are not going to consider what we have lost! When you ask others to love you the most, you seldom think of others, is this love?Feelings are not transactions, but feelings are mutual！If you can"t pay for each other, it"s not emotion。If you are willing to give a lot to others, and others are willing to pay for you little, that is not emotion。In a way, it"s someone else taking advantage of you！As a friend, when you need me, I will come forward to help you, and when I need you, you will do the same！Friends need understanding, but understanding should be mutual！You always say you are busy, let me understand you!I can understand you very well. Sometimes everyone is busy!But there is no denying that sometimes you are not busy！What I don"t understand is the news I sent you. You haven"t answered for a week. Have you been really busy for a week? I don"t even have time to respond to my messages What kind of friends are we? When you don"t trust me and hate me, have you ever wondered why I did it?That"s because in my world, I think of you as my only friend!I choose to tell you, because I believe you, but you hurt me again and again, avoid me!Can I still believe you? Do I still dare to believe you?The only difference between us is that I think of you as all of me, but in your world, I"m only a small part!Unequal love is destined for me and you won"t be the best friend in the world!So we can only be ordinary friends, I hope you understand!

3.For freedom,Everyone yearns for freedom！But freedom is relative，As a friend, I can give you the greatest freedom, but please think clearly, the greatest freedom is actually to give up you! A kite has broken its line. Can it be a kite, too?

交換和利用是人際關係最原始的本質，而且你的圈子裡面，絕大部分你認為關係很好的人，其實就是這樣一種最簡單的關係。你用你和別人帶來的價值，交換別人和你帶來的價值，這就是人際關係的初始動力，所以在和人打交道的時候，不要把自己看成神一樣的存在，你就是別人利用的一個工具而已，當然別人也是你利用的物件離開了這一個本質，把人際關係說的非常高大尚，說的非常的崇高，很多事情你把他看透了，說穿了，就是那麼回事兒。你覺得將來能用上的你就花多一點的功夫，與之保持來往。關係一般的，只要平時注意維護就可以啦，人與人之間的感情說白了，就是在不斷的交往過程當中，你對我的印象很好，我對你的印象也不差，然後我認可你這個人品，你也認可我這個為人，這就叫做朋友，比朋友更進一步的就叫做人脈，比人脈更進一步的就叫做鐵哥們。