辛丑年 庚寅月 丁未日

28 FEB.SUNDAY感情中的安全感其實很簡單，與旁人保持距離，與愛人保持深情。

什麼是邊界意識？其實就是男女生交往過程中該有的界限，什麼樣的事情是普通朋友可以做的，什麼樣的事情不行，什麼樣的事情做了之後大家都覺得氣氛尷尬感覺不對，什麼樣的事情做了會引起誤會，其實我們都深諳於心。

What is boundary consciousness? In fact, it is the boundary between boys and girls in the process of communication, what kind of things ordinary friends can do, what kind of things can't do, what kind of things we all feel embarrassed and wrong after doing, what kind of things will cause misunderstanding, in fact, we all know.

從小到大的性別教育，父母掛在嘴邊的家教，你都或多或少地明白跟異性交往該有的分寸感。

From childhood to adulthood, gender education, parents talk about tutoring, you more or less understand the sense of propriety with the opposite sex.

這份分寸感是成年人最該遵守的社交原則，要想對方沒有不必要的猜測，要想不被別人在背後嚼舌根猜測你們的關係，要想盡可能維護異性之間純粹的友誼不影響彼此真正的愛情。

This sense of propriety is the most important social principle that adults should abide by. If you want the other party to have no unnecessary guess, if you want to not be speculated about by others behind your back, and if you want to maintain the pure friendship between the opposite sex as far as possible, it will not affect each other's true love.

不是沒有距離，而是你們彼此都心知肚明地保留一段距離，那一點距離，是你們對彼此的尊重，也是對自己的保護。

It's not that there is no distance, but that you all know how to keep a distance. That distance is your respect for each other and your protection.

單身者，無論什麼原因，都應該和非單身人士保持距離，這是教養。

Single people, no matter what the reason, should keep a distance from non single people. This is education.

With the object of love or married people, no matter what the reason, should be indifferent to the opposite sex, this is the respect for the partner, but also the source of feelings of security.