“侯王”不是指身份與特權，而是指責任，指人的心。心乃神之主，心中若無事也無為，沒有勉強與執著，總是順應因緣，有所為而有所不為——既不做自己力所不逮的事，也不去勉強自己做違背規律的事，這便是守住了無為之境，那你想做什麼都能自然達成。
生活中有政道、商道、家道等各種各樣的規則，連走路開車都有走路開車的規則。所以，老子講“道”不是講虛無縹緲的境界，而是在非常實際地給大家講“規則”——因為我們都知道，做任何事都要制定規則，一個只講境界不講規則的社會是沒有希望的。在規則的基礎上，就算只是走路也應該走出境界。比如，路窄的時候側側身，讓別人也能透過；進門的時候把門開啟，便於後面的人進入；有人跌倒，我們攙扶起他……這是人道的規則，因為“人”字是一撇一捺，原本就需要相互扶持。而人道的規則是大道規則和境界的自然延伸，道是有邊界的，這個邊界叫紅線或底限。所以，做人做事不要試圖逾越大道，因為道外往往就是懸崖絕壁；慎重於邊界，我們做事才沒有危險和失敗。
上天有厚生之德，最喜歡人厚道、孝順及和諧了，這樣的人即使身處絕境也會有上天護佑。所以，有人能起死回生、發達振興，這就不是奇怪的事了。無欲則剛是通於自然大道的，這叫“道德”，這叫能力非凡！
現在說起“道德”這個詞，處在後面的“德”已經把前面的“道”去掉了——所謂“德”已經沒有一個嚴格的標準去衡量了；而沒有了標準，大家就都用自己的標準去衡量，把自己當成了最有德的人。所以，很多人都很自然地站在自己的角度上去審判別人，哪怕他什麼都沒做，他還是認為“我有資格去批評別人”。因為他在用聖人的標準要求別人，卻用俗人的標準要求自己，因此錯的永遠是別人。而他不管犯了什麼錯，總是振振有詞，覺得自己一貫正確……這是現在社會最普遍的一種狀態，其根源就在於把“德”之前的“道”給弄丟了。
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"Ruler" does not refer to identity and privilege, but to responsibility and human heart.The heart is the Lord of one’s mind. If there is no thingsor actions in the heart, there is no reluctance and persistence, always adapt to karma, do something and sometimes do nothing-neither do what you cannot do, nor force yourself to do things that go against the law.This is to keep the state of inaction, and you can do whatever you want to do naturally.There are all kinds of rules in life, such as politics, business, family and so on. Even walking and driving have rules of walking and driving. Therefore, Laozi's lecture on "Tao" is not about the illusory realm, but about the "rules" in a very practical way-- because we all know that we have to make rules for everything we do, and there is no hope for a society that only talks about realms but no rules. On the basis of the rules, even walking has its realm. For example, when the road is narrow,lean to your side so as to let others passthrough;whenenteringthedoor,openthedoor soastomakepeoplebehindenter;if someone falls, we help him up. This is a humane rule, because the Chinese character"human" is formed by one stroke to the left and another to the right.That means people need support each other.The rule of humanity is the natural extension of the rule ofTao and its realm.Taohas its boundary,which is called the red line or the bottom line. Therefore, do not try to exceedTao, because there is often a precipice out of Tao. Hence, be careful of the boundary,sothat we do things without danger or failure.Heaven cares for every living thing. He likes people's kindness, filial piety and harmony most.Suchpeoplewillbeblessedevenwhentheyareinadesperatesituation.Therefore, itisnot surprisingthatsomepeoplecancomebackfromdeath, developandrevitalize. No desire is coincident with Tao, this is called "morality", this is called extraordinary ability!NowwhenitcomestotheChineseword"TaoDe",thelatter"De"hasalreadyremovedthe former "Tao". So it means there is no strict standard to measure the so-called "De", and everyonemeasureit withtheirown standardsandregardthemselvesasthe mostvirtuous people.Therefore,manypeoplenaturallyjudgeothersfromtheirown pointofview,evenifhe has not done anything, he still thinks that "I am qualified to criticize others". Because he is using the standard of a saint to ask others, but using the standard of alaity to ask himself, so it is always others who are wrong.And no matter what mistakes he made, he always spokeplausibly andfelt that hewasalways right.Thisisthe mostcommonstatein society,and its root lies in the loss of the "Tao" before "De".